Friends Determine Your Future
At a very young age my grandmother instilled in me advice that at the time I took for granted. It was valuable advice that would’ve avoided me a lot of headaches and challenges that I put myself through. She told me in Spanish, “Dime con quien tu andas y yo te digo quien tu eres.” In English, this translates to “Tell me who you hang out with, and I will tell you who you are.”
What did that even mean? I literally had no clue when I was a teenager, but now as an adult… I realized it could even be life changing. Who you choose to have as friends will determine who you are as a person and how you will live your life.
Here are three reasons why you want to choose your friends wisely or at the very least question who you choose to spend your time with.
- Standards are Created: Simply stated, standards are a level of quality and believe it or not your friends have a huge influence on the standards you set for yourself. If your friends have low standards then you too will lower your standards to match theirs. What this means is, if you have friends who over the years continue to work at minimum waged paying jobs, eat fast food daily, drink and party every single weekend then they have very low standards for themselves. You will sooner than later find yourself in the same predicament, which down the line will have huge negative impacts on your life as a whole. On the other hand, if your friends are motivated, seeking new opportunities to grow, eating healthier foods, attending personal development seminars, and managing their time properly then they are setting higher standards for themselves.
- Behaviors Can Change: Depending on who you surround yourself with, you can find that your behaviors are similar to those of your friends. If you surround yourself with people who smoke, drink, lie, cheat and swear a lot then you too will eventually fall into the same behaviors. Typically with young adults, this is when they become rebellious towards their parents because they are surrounding themselves with the wrong group of friends. If you find yourself in situations that feel wrong then more than likely you have chosen the wrong group of friends to be with.
- Mindset Can Be Affected: It is said, “Great minds think alike.” Well the same applies to mediocre minds.
Surround yourself with people you can learn from vs. people that keep you thinking small. I can’t stress enough how your mind will shift for the better when you are with strong-minded individuals who think positively. You will gain so much invaluable information and insight from them that you too will begin to think differently.